Steadfast Sanity

Where broken becomes beautiful

  • Everyone Saw Your Ugly!

    What Happens When You Get The Thing You Were Bitter About? Here’s a question I’ve been sitting with lately: What do you do when you finally get something you wanted — something you were publicly, visibly, ugly about not having? I’m not talking about private disappointment. I’m not talking about quietly hoping for something and Read more

  • I Am The Villain: A Story About the Friend I Destroyed If you know me in real life, you know about Karen and Albert. I wrote about that story on this blog—about how I was the villain, how I didn’t stand up for myself when it mattered, how that lesson has stuck with me ever Read more

  • Why I’m Still Talking

    The Christmas Letter This year, I sent out my first Christmas letter. That might not sound like much. People do it all the time. But if you know anything about my story—about how life smacked me in the face the moment I left my parents’ house and handed me a bill I had no idea Read more

  • A Departure If you’ve followed my blog for any length of time, you know what I do here. I tell stories. Real ones. My name, my face, my mess—all of it laid out in black and white for anyone willing to read. I’ve written about the missionary school that asked me to leave and how Read more

  • Tending: A Companion Piece

    Tending A Companion Piece to “What is a Mother Without Children?” You want to know how this museum works. You want to know when I built each room, whether this building is real or imagined, what my medical history entails, how many years I tried, whether I’m married, if I have a name beyond “curator.” Read more

  • What is a Mother Without Children? The museum opens at dawn, though you won’t arrive until much later. I am here in the quiet blue light, walking through galleries I have spent decades curating. My footsteps echo differently in each room, and I know them all by heart—the hollow ring in the Hall of Might-Have-Beens, Read more

  • When Your Gut Knows What Your Heart Won’t Accept Sometimes the most devastating betrayals come not from enemies, but from the people who convince you they’re your closest allies. I was sitting in that dimly lit restaurant, watching Eugenia’s mouth move as she laid out evidence with receipts and screenshots, when I realized I’d been Read more

  • _________________________________________ Photo Disclaimer: Several photos of Walle accompany this story. One image shows him after rhinoplasty surgery and may be graphic in nature. While I have many photos documenting his journey, I’ve chosen to share the gentlest images that non-animal people can tolerate while still honoring the reality of what he survived. Author’s Note: Location Read more

  • Blueprints in the Wilderness: The Karen and Albert Story Legal Disclaimer: The following is my retelling of events from my perspective and memory. Names have been changed for privacy. Any mention of companies, including Mattress Firm, reflects solely my individual experience and should not be construed as representative of the company as a whole. The Read more

  • The Journey to Peace “Though He slay me, yet I will trust in Him.” – Job 13:15 Chapter 4: The Great Surrender When everything false is finally stripped away When Tim left, it wasn’t just another heartbreak—it was the final blow that sent me crashing back into nothingness. Everything I thought I had rebuilt, every Read more